Lately, I've received calls from several concerned clients facing distressing situations with their dogs—bites and aggressive displays toward visitors and children. These scenarios weigh heavily on my heart, highlighting the urgent need for education and understanding.
Every behaviour in our animals has a reason behind it, and aggression can stem from a mix of physical, emotional, or mental factors. Sometimes, our human expectations are simply out of sync with canine reality as well.
The Language of Dogs
Dogs primarily communicate through body language, so being able to interpret these signals is crucial. A fantastic resource for families is this video on dog body language—a must-watch for everyone involved with your pup!
When we don’t “listen” to what our dogs are expressing through their body language, they might resort to growling or even nipping, especially if they feel trapped. Remember, they don’t speak our language; they communicate in their own way.This is a great video on dog body language for the entire family:
Respecting Their Space
Dogs are sentient beings with their own thoughts and feelings. They might not want to be petted by strangers, and honestly, they shouldn’t have to. Approaching a strange dog can be as invasive as touching a pregnant woman’s belly or snatching a child from a pram. Just because our family pets tolerate our affection doesn’t mean they welcome it from everyone else. There will also be times at home that they don't want to be petted by family members and that is ok too. We all need space sometimes.
I love the Pat/Pet/Pause method for interacting with dogs. Here’s how it works: Pat your leg to invite the dog over. If they approach, turn sideways and gently pet them on the chest or side. Then, pause. This gives the dog a choice to engage further or walk away if they prefer. Avoid leaning over or patting them on the head, as this can feel threatening.
Keeping Kids Safe Around Dogs
It’s essential to supervise children during their interactions with dogs. Kids often pick up small dogs and puppies without considering whether the dog wants to be handled. Puppies, especially, can experience growing pains and discomfort, which may lead to negative associations if they’re mishandled. Instead of grabbing at a dog, consider giving them soft toys to play with!
Safety First: Preventing Aggression
Here are some simple yet effective strategies to keep aggression at bay:
Mealtime Peace: Avoid touching your dog while they eat. Instead, toss in something tasty into their bowl as you pass by. Think of adding instead of taking.
No Food Snatching: Don’t grab food from your dog’s mouth, as this can foster guarding behaviours. Teach them a “swap” or “leave it” command instead.
Gentle Awakenings: If you need to move a sleeping dog, wake them with your voice rather than touching them.
Comfy Spaces: Don’t drag your dog off the furniture. They enjoy comfort just like we do! Teach an “off” command or designate a mat for them.
Respecting Mothers: Never approach a dog with puppies; they can be fiercely protective.
Avoid Confinement Intrusions: Don’t disturb dogs tied up or locked in vehicles. They may feel cornered and defenceless in these situations.
Safe Zones: Don’t stick your fingers in a dog’s crate or pen. Dogs need a secure space to relax.
Sniff First: Avoid extending your hand for dogs to sniff; they’ve likely already caught your scent from afar, and sudden gestures can startle them.
Approach with Caution: Don’t try to pet a strange dog, especially one on a leash. They may feel trapped and threatened.
Choose Play Carefully: If your dog shows aggression at daycares or parks, it’s time to reconsider those outings. Fear, anxiety, and stress can escalate with repeated exposure to triggers.
Don’t Let Them “Sort It Out”: If dogs are fighting, intervene. Leaving them to resolve it themselves can lead to repeated aggressive behaviour and potential injuries.
Taking Action
If your dog shows signs of aggression—toward you, other dogs, or people — stop immediately. Schedule a vet check to rule out health issues before addressing behaviour concerns. It’s crucial to consult a behavioural specialist for management techniques and training. As a registered Dangerous Dog Assessor with Dogs NSW, I’m here to help answer your questions.
Let’s work together to ensure our dogs are safe, happy, and well-adjusted.
Cheers, Debi and Memphis
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